06 August, 2005

How to treat a woman:
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Do you know the expression: You can be right or you can be kind? Be kind. Right just doesn't look good on you!!!! Show respect for her opinions. Never say, "You're wrong." Dare I say, you might be wrong yourself sometimes. So shut up and listen.

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Always keep the recipe for Humble Pie in your back pocket and use it often. In fact, begin in a friendly way. It's a courtship. Enjoy it.

Slowly .get her saying "yes, yes" immediately. That means, finding those things that mean so much to her--not you--those are her yes's, and start enjoying them with her. Support, listen, enjoy.

Let her do a great deal of the talking. Are you listening? Quiet, please--she's speaking. Let her feel that the idea is hers’.. You are not leading. You are letting the chemistry between you find its own unique, new territory.

Try honestly to see things from her point of view. Really, really think about what it would be like to be her. Take in the things she tells you that shaped her. Those are the keys.

Be sympathetic with her ideas and desires. Are you still listening? Don't panic and impose your wishes. Go with it. Trust the outcome.

Appeal to the nobler motives. I suspect Dale Carnegie’s editor deleted '--you selfish schmuck' .Dramatize your ideas. That comes much later. For now, shut up and listen and enjoy where she takes you.

Throw down a challenge, but only if it's following her wishes, not yours. Imagine what you'd be like if you had been through everything she had. If you love her, you'll see her exactly where she is. She's done her best with what she's been given. Now she needs to trust you completely. You cannot waver. BE SENSITIVE

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